I've struggle when someone decides he/she doesn't want me to be part of their life anymore (or he/she removes his/herself from mine).
I'm definitely not a perfect person. I have my flaws and have made mistakes. I have and will accept if and when I'm in the wrong.
I have a hard time letting people go! However, God revealed to me that whether or not I understand why someone isn't in my life anymore, I need to let go. I can't control others decisions. I won't always know why. I just have to trust that their new direction or next chapter may not include me. I may just be a "seasonal" friend" in their life. Maybe that person has a situation going on God doesn't want me to be a part of. Whatever, the reason when people are no longer in my life I need to let go and let God...and be ok with it.
The reasons could go on and I have learned to accept when change happens. I have learned people will do they what they want to do, with or without you.
I hold people close. I do my best to make the most of the friendships and relationships in my life. Again, nothing is ever perfect, but the effort and care is very much applied. So whatever happens, it can be said that at least good happened and I or we did try our best to make the most of our time together. Some I've even called my family and when they're no longer in my life, I'm sometimes conflicted and sadden. *Unless, I have seen or understand why their time in my life has come to an "end".
I will admit, I've cut people off or made it clear they need to move on and away from me. Usually, because there was a negative impact made and I don't need that drama or negativity in my life. However, to understand my point from this writing, I don't understand letting go someone that loves, cares, and gives so much and then just decide that you don't need that person anymore. I tend to think, "What did I do wrong or what's wrong with me?" I really would have a hard time understanding someone choosing to not be around anymore. All communication would just get cut off, moreso from their side.
Sometimes people choose to remove themselves because they grow tired or long for something different. Sometimes it could be a maturity thing and maybe their growth/journey doesn't include certain people. I have even figured out that someone could be hiding something and/or doesn't want to be held accountable. People want to do what they do and not have others get in their way. So, they push away. These and other reasons are just few of many people cut you off.
*Everyone can't be your friend. Every person is not your friend. However, who ever it is and for whatever reason they're in your life, you still been to be who God called you to be. Your presence in their life could be brief or a life time. I will love, care, and pray for me whoever is in my life despite not knowing how long they're in it. I'm that friend. I'm that person who is going to give it my best and all when necessary because I treat others how I want to be treats. So, if the time comes when we don't see each other anymore and one of us moves on, then it can be said that it was nice while it lasted.
This could be continued as I know much discussion can come from this topic.
