Letting People Go (My Personal Perspective))

I've struggle when someone decides he/she doesn't want me to be part of their life anymore (or he/she removes his/herself from mine). 

I'm definitely not a perfect person. I have my flaws and have made mistakes. I have and will accept if and when I'm in the wrong. 

I have a hard time letting people go! However, God revealed to me that whether or not I understand why someone isn't in my life anymore, I need to let go. I can't control others decisions. I won't always know why. I just have to trust that their new direction or next chapter may not include me. I may just be a "seasonal" friend" in their life. Maybe that person has a situation going on God doesn't want me to be a part of. Whatever, the reason when people are no longer in my life I need to let go and let God...and be ok with it.

The reasons could go on and I have learned to accept when change happens. I have learned people will do they what they want to do, with or without you. 

I hold people close. I do my best to make the most of the friendships and relationships in my life. Again, nothing is ever perfect, but the effort and care is very much applied. So whatever happens, it can be said that at least good happened and I or we did try our best to make the most of our time together. Some I've even called my family and when they're no longer in my life, I'm sometimes conflicted and sadden. *Unless, I have seen or understand why their time in my life has come to an "end".

I will admit, I've cut people off or made it clear they need to move on and away from me. Usually, because there was a negative impact made and I don't need that drama or negativity in my life. However, to understand my point from this writing, I don't understand letting go someone that loves, cares, and gives so much and then just decide that you don't need that person anymore. I tend to think, "What did I do wrong or what's wrong with me?" I really would have a hard time understanding someone choosing to not be around anymore. All communication would just get cut off, moreso from their side. 

Sometimes people choose to remove themselves because they grow tired or long for something different. Sometimes it could be a maturity thing and maybe their growth/journey doesn't include certain people. I have even figured out that someone could be hiding something and/or doesn't want to be held accountable. People want to do what they do and not have others get in their way. So, they push away. These and other reasons are just few of many people cut you off. 

*Everyone can't be your friend. Every person is not your friend. However, who ever it is and for whatever reason they're in your life, you still been to be who God called you to be. Your presence in their life could be brief or a life time. I will love, care, and pray for me whoever is in my life despite not knowing how long they're in it. I'm that friend. I'm that person who is going to give it my best and all when necessary because I treat others how I want to be treats. So, if the time comes when we don't see each other anymore and one of us moves on, then it can be said that it was nice while it lasted.

This could be continued as I know much discussion can come from this topic.

Cutting Them Off

 Idk.  Lots of people are talking about cutting off folks and moving on. I get that when you're around toxic people. I get it when there are individuals or groups that are not good for you. Everyone isn't your friend. Someone or many could be using or abusing you.   However, pulling yourself away so you don't have to be held accountable or "have people in your business" isn't a reason to cut people off.  Some people pull away because of someone else. Some cut off because they rather be alone and do their own thing.   There are just so many posts about changing it up and being by yourself. However, then we have people struggling mentally and feeling alone. *Please note, I know there are other reasons for that as well.   What happen to keeping a solid group of friends in your life? What's going on that so many have to cut ties and move on from people after so many years?   Just seems like there is so much hurt or misunderstanding. Also, seems like some people don't want to have real friends, just those who are for entertainment and puff them up. They don't want to have accountability, but want accolades and approval whether right or wrong. If you got poeple who only know so much about you, then limited access or knowledge means you can do whatever, whenever without muchsay so.   This is just one perspective. This isn't towards anyone specific and again, I do get that what I'm talking about is circumstantial. It doesn't necessarily apply to those choosing to make this year about starting fresh being around new people. Sometimes, you have to let go of people. Sometimes, you're meant to move on and forward. I've done it, so I do know. It's hard and sometimes it hurts or it's freeing and you're ok about it.   However, if you're blessed with good people in your life  and hopefully ones that care about you, don't let anyone or anything pull you away from them. If something is an issue, work to resolve it and reconcile. It's possible. God knows who's needed in your life and vice verse. Do think carefully about your support system and those that should be a part of it.